Starting this week, I will begin posting a challenge of the week. This is mostly so I don’t forget about this blog entirely (I apologize for the fact that I have a life outside of the internet world, haha). But it’s also for you and me, as a challenge to get one step closer to God.

So here’s this week’s challenge…

Make God first.

This doesn’t mean you’re never going to go a minute without thinking of Jesus, or an hour without praying, or a day without sharing the Gospel with someone. It means you make little changes. And here are a few ideas…

Declare Jesus as Lord – Wake up in the morning and say it out loud. “Jesus is the Lord of my life, this home, my family.” Think of how it strengthens a relationship when you say “You are my friend/husband/daughter” etc. And bonus points for offending Satan, btw.

A moment to meditate – Take a minute before or after your day to just sit down, take a deep breath and think about what God has done for you. Send up a prayer of thanks.

Say something – It’s easy to be a quiet Christian. But this week, make an effort to speak up about your God. It could be anything from a simple “Praise God!” at work to telling someone that you’re praying for them.

Pick one or two simple things to hold yourself to this week. Comment below which one you want to do. Write it on your chalkboard or in your journal, and then watch what happens. And remember, this isn’t a “good deed” to earn God’s grace. It’s a humble response to His love and goodness to us. I hope you have an awesome week, so I’m going to leave you with this song by Lauren Daigle called “First”! Enjoy!




God’s Will 4 U

1st Thessalonians 5: 16-18 says “Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” This has always been one of my favorite scriptures because it has so much practical help for everyday problems packed into three tiny verses. I found some quotes about these different topics that you might enjoy.

{Rejoice Always}

In his sermon in 1991 titled “Rejoice Always”, John MacArthur said this “The joyful Christian thinks more of his Lord than he does his personal difficulties. The joyful Christian thinks more of his spiritual riches in Christ than his poverty on earth. The joyful Christian thinks more of his glorious eternal future than his present pain. And when you live like that, the command “rejoice always” becomes possible…not only possible, desirable.”

{Pray Without Ceasing}

On the topic of the power of prayer Charles Spurgeon wrote “All hell is vanquished when the believer bows his knee in importunate supplication…we cannot all be leaders, but we can all be pleaders; we cannot all be mighty in rhetoric, but we can all be prevalent in prayer…Prayer links us with the Eternal, the Omnipotent, the Infinite, and hence it is our chief resort. . . Be sure that you are with God, and then you may be sure that God is with you.”

{In Everything Give Thanks}

In John Gill’s commentary of this scripture he says “thanks should be given to God in every circumstance of life; in adversity, as Job did; when not in so comfortable and agreeable a frame of soul as to be wished for, since it might be worse, …even under the temptations of Satan, since they might be greater and heavier, and since the grace of God is sufficient to bear up under them, and deliver out of them, and since there is such a sympathizing high priest and Savior; and in afflictions of every kind, since they are all for good, temporal, or spiritual, or eternal.”

If you’ve ever wondered what God’s will is for your life I think you have a clue now. I hope that these words have uplifted and encouraged you to be more joyful, prayerful and thankful. 


The Ultimate Relationship

For years she had struggled. After several broken relationships and many nights in tears she was about to give up. She had given her life to the Lord two summers ago but she still had this longing, this deep, intense longing for someone. Someone who would fulfill her. Someone who would be there for her emotionally. Someone who would love her unconditionally.

Then one day…she realized that that person doesn’t exist. Sorry, this isn’t a Cinderella story, it’s not a fairy tale. There isn’t a prince to sweep her off her feet. This is the story of an average Christian girl, living an average life, coming to the end of fantasy and falling into reality. 

The truth that she discovered is that there is only One who can truly satisfy. The One who made heavens and earth, who brings rain in the Springtime and crops in the harvest, the One who gave His life for us and brought us out of bondage. He is the One we were made for. Our destiny is to be with Him.

These human relationships that we have now are temporal and can never fill the void in our hearts. Give yourself to Jesus. Let Him be the love of your life. Don’t keep spending your life going in circles, wishing and waiting. Your time is now, your Prince has come. You have a life to live for Him, a world to tell of Him.

When your deepest passion is Christ, your value is because of His grace, your purpose is found in His will, there is meaning in living and reason to love. So let’s get our lives on track and turn our focus back toward Him. 


Boy-Girl Relationships Q and A (for girls only)

Over the last few years I have been asked dozens of variations of the same few questions about boy-girl relationships. Most of the time the questions were from my peers (mostly junior high girls) but I have also heard the same from high-school and even college age girls. So, I have put together a collection of my answers for a few of the basic questions. Some of these may not be pertinent to where you are in your life but I hope this helps you in some way. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section!

Q: What is the purpose of boy-girl relationships?

A: In most cases (in the world), boy-girl relationships are centered on having fun. Then when it gets old they breakup because it’s not “fun” anymore. It’s really the ultimate training ground for divorce. However, biblicaly, we are supposed to focus on encouraging one another and building each other up in the Lord, always maintaining purity in all things. That should be the purpose in our relationships with guys.

Q: What is the standard of purity that I am to uphold as a Christian?

A: Remember that as a Christian, you are the bride of Christ. So, in the same way that you try to keep yourself from sin and live a life worthy of the calling you have been given, stay pure in your thoughts and actions for your future husband if God chooses to bless you with one. The relationship between Christ and the church is the prime example for a couple of saving themselves for each other. We need to continually let God purify our hearts and minds through His word so that we can be good wives to our future husbands.

Q: What does it mean to give your heart away?

A: Giving your heart away is trusting someone with your emotions. If you give your heart away to boy after boy over the entire expanse of your young-ladyhood, you will soon find yourself with a broken heart and emotions all over the place. However, if you give your heart to God, He will keep it safe because He has your best interest in mind and He cares about you more than anyone else ever could.

Q: Should I just stop thinking about boys altogether?

A: It’s natural for us girls to think about guys because God made us to eventually be a help-meet for our husband (Genesis 2:20-23)so don’t stop thinking about them, but stop thinking of them as marriage material and start thinking of them as brothers in Christ. If you have brothers, you know that as sisters, we feel the need to protect our brother’s reputation, purity, etc. We should treat the young men in our lives with the same kind of respect.

Q: How will I find ‘the one’ if I treat all the guys I know like brothers?

A: God knows what is best for you. If you are looking for “the one” you are really saying that you know better than God. He has a plan for you. He loves you. He will bring the right guy at the right time. No worries!

Q: What should I say when my girlfriends start talking about boys (who likes or doesn’t like who, etc.)?

A: This has happened so many times to me. I think the best thing is to let them know that they are really hurting their own hearts by thinking of boys like this. One of my favorite bible verses is 1st Thessalonians 4:11 which basically says “Lead a quiet life, mind your own business and work hard.” Following this command is one of the best ways I’ve found to keep from thinking about those things.

Q: Should girls have friends who are boys?

A: This really depends on the situation. It’s best to ask your parents or a wise older person about the guy and whether they think your friendship would be uplifting to the young man or if it might be a stumbling block to him. Remember, your parents have already been through all this, so, even if it doesn’t seem like it, they know what they’re talking about.

Q: What should I say when someone asks me why I don’t date?

A: Explain to them that you and your parents have made the decision to wait for God’s choice for you. Why should you date someone who might not be God’s choice and give a piece of your heart away when God has promised that He has good plans for you (Jeremiah 29:11)? The LORD is good unto them that wait (Lamentations 3:25 a).

Q: How do I explain to a boy that I don’t want his attention?

A: It’s best to remain calm in situations like this (I learned it the hard way). Usually if you just ignore him he will get the clue but if that doesn’t work, politely tell him (or have your dad or brother tell him) that you don’t want his attention and would like him to leave you alone. Depending on who he is, you might also want to explain to him your beliefs on the subject of relationships and saving your heart.

Q: What should I do while I’m waiting for God’s timing?

A: First of all, watch the film “The Return of the Daughters”. After that you should have a pretty good idea. In the bible we see that young ladies almost always helped their father in whatever the family business was. These days most of us don’t have that opportunity because our fathers work outside the home, but you can prepare yourself in other ways. Consider learning a skill that you will need as a mother. Remember that if/when you get married you will need to be very flexible to whatever your husband’s needs are so prepare your heart to be submissive. Read Proverbs 31.

Q: How can I stop having crushes on guys?

A: This is one of the most common questions and the answer isn’t real simple so I saved it for last. In order to stop having crushes you really need to realize that the guy you are tempted to give your heart to is most likely someone else’s husband and you should treat him as such. Another thing to think about is this, how do you want other girls thinking about your future husband? You don’t want other girls having crushes on your future husband right now so don’t have crushes on their’s. So many girls let their emotions carry them away and end up making really bad decisions.

I had a problem with crushes for a season of time and I felt like I just couldn’t help it. Then I heard a sermon by S.M. Davis called “Victory Over the Dating Spirit”* and I learned for the first time how this problem can be fixed. S.M. Davis basically said that you need to ask God to change your desires to become His desires. Repent of being lax in the past and ask God to help you stand strong and let your beliefs dictate your thoughts and actions. After I did this, I felt a huge burden lifted off my heart and I felt that I could start fresh again. Ever since, God has given me many good things to focus my energy and time on and helped me to be able to bless others in ways I never thought imaginable. I have still struggled a little but it’s much easier to handle now that I’ve given it over to my heavenly Father.

All I have to say after this is that God’s ways are much higher than our ways. His desires are much more important and meaningful than ours and His way of doing things is so much wiser and better than anything the wisest of us could have come up with.

I pray that God will use this message to reach those who need it. Feel free to pass this on to others and may God bless you!

In Christ,


P.S. This is just the humble opinion of a fourteen year old girl, trying to make sense of the world through a biblical worldview. But, I’m not always right so if you see anything in here that goes against the bible, please tell me about it. Thank you!

*You can find this sermon on

Keys to Success Part 1: Pure Ideals

Chapter 11 of the book Beautiful Girlhood is titled ‘Ideals‘. I have found much insight from this chapter and I hope to bring it to you in a way that will improve your life and character as you strive to follow God’s calling in your life. (Everything in quotes is from chapter 11 of Beautiful Girlhood unless otherwise indicated.)

The author describes an ideal as “a mental conception of perfection.” She says “Every girl has her ideals and in one way or another is working toward them. No girl can rise higher than her ideals….It is better to aim at the impossible than to be content with the inferior.”

Think about what kind of woman you consider to be ideal. “Consider her dress, her lifework, her manner of speech, her influence upon those about her. Think of her as a housewife and as a mother. Is your ideal woman loud spoken, or is her voice pitched low and sweet? Does she criticize others quickly and sharply, or does she have always a good word for everybody? Is her dress quiet and becoming, or “loud” and bold? Does she wear jewelry and ornaments upon her person, or is her adornment that of a meek and quiet spirit? … Is she a teacher, a housewife, a business woman, or a woman of ease and pleasure? Is she an actress or a movie star? Is she pure and noble, or light and frivolous? Whatever she is, you admire her, and deep in your heart you want to be like her.”

Then the author goes on to tell what the biblically ideal woman looks like.

“First, she must be pure and noble. Our truly ideal woman must not be one who is silly or frivolous, nor shall she be guilty of actions that appear vulgar or unwomanly. She must be sweet-voiced and gentle…She must have always a kind word for all… Her clothing must be modest and becoming…she must be known for the beauty of her character. Her face may be pretty or it may not be, that is of no importance at all. She must be a good housewife and a good mother. She must be loving, tender-hearted, and sympathetic. She must be the kind of woman to whom you would not be afraid to tell your troubles. She must be true-hearted and loyal in friendship, never breaking faith. She must be a Christian, serving God with all her heart. If every girl would set up such a pattern for her ideal, how different many lives would be!”

I know this sounds really old-fashioned but I think this is what we are missing in today’s culture and maybe that’s the reason for America’s moral decline. This list of good character traits sounds a lot like that found in Proverbs 31 and Titus 2:4-5. We are all different but our lives should be based upon these same biblical guidelines.

Miss Hale goes on to say that “If you aspire to be pure and noble, then you must give up all that defiles and leave it out of your life.”

“It is not enough simply to strive for a life morally pure and noble. That is good; but the truly ideal life is one lived for God. A life that does not in word and deed reflect the life and teachings of Christ, fails that much in being ideal.”

This is the most important part. If Christ is the foundation of our lives, He should be the one we strive to imitate. This is something I think Mabel Hale may not have emphasised quite enough. We should live every moment of our lives in reflection of His great mercy and love.

What follows is the story of a young woman who stood by her Christian convictions even when it was very difficult. (You can skip through this part if you don’t have much time. I think you get the point.)

“I never think of one who stands by her Christian ideals but what I remember a girl I knew years ago. She was a happy, blue-eyed girl with high ideals of morality and godliness, and with a purpose to be true to these in all her conduct. She had kept company with a young man for some time and they had become engaged to be married, and she gave him her whole heart’s love. But he was not a Christian, and as their acquaintance became more intimate he saw more and more her determination to be guided in everything by her pattern, Christ. He loved the things of this life and desired that their lives together should be gay and full of worldly pleasure, while he saw plainly that her mind ran to things spiritual. He thought it best for them to understand before marriage that their lives were not to be religious, but should be given to the things he loved. So one evening he told her plainly his position. Her blue eyes opened wide in astonishment that he should set before her such a choice; for he had said that if she was not willing to give up her religion she must give him up. She was disappointed, for she had hoped to win him for the Lord. But her answer came firmly from her heart, “I will not give up my Lord for any man.” This decision cost her his friendship and the fulfilment of all the hopes and plans they had built, but she had in her heart the consciousness of having stood by her convictions.”

In closing Hale urges young women to “Be true, be noble, aim high, and God will give you strength to keep your ideals and bless you with His best.”

If you have gotten some good from this I’d like to hear from you.

Lord willing, I’ll post Part 2 very soon.




In the last hundred years or so, women’s clothing has changed a lot and I have to say I think it has changed for the worse. The way it used to be, women’s clothing was much different than men’s. The dresses women wore were distinctly feminine and modest. Then, women began to be discontent with their place in the home. They wanted jobs like the men, money like the men and eventually clothes like the men. With the rise of the Women’s Sufferage Movement women like Susan B. Anthony and others stirred women’s hearts to want a life outside the home and encouraged unsubmisiveness to men’s leadership.

As more women entered the work force, they began to see that if women and men are equal, they should be able to wear the same kinds of clothes as men and have the same freedoms as men. Soon skirts and sleeves began shortening to make way for a new era of revealing shirts, tight jeans, holes in the clothing and more. Fashion designers and clothing manufacturers try to apeall to our selfishness and our longing to be pretty and popular. Of course you all know what I’m talking about so, I have a question. Are those types of clothing honoring and glorifying to God? Read these verses and see what you think:

“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man…for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.” -Deuteronomy 22:5

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with humbleness and sobriety; not with extravagant hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.” – 1Timothy 2:9

I think the answer is obviously no.

So, what are we supposed to do? Let’s dress in such a way that is presentable and modest, not to draw attention to ourselves but to tell the world who we are and Whose we are, who we follow and and who we don’t follow. Be content with the way God made you and His will for your life. Let’s be the kind of people that others will see and think “Wow. There is something different about her! Why doesn’t she dress and act like everyone else? I want to know more.” and don’t be suprised if someone just comes up to you and asks if you’re a Christian. Let your light shine in the way you dress and act and always be ready to give an answer to those who ask you about your convictions and faith.

There is a song by Barlow Girl called ‘Clothes’ and it really speaks to this topic in a way I’ve never heard in music before.

Watch it here. Lyrics are below.

Clothes aren’t what they used to be
They don’t seem to fit you and me anymore
Modesty is out the door
Flaunting what we’ve got and more is in
Yeah it’s in

They’re saying
Don’t ask why just wear what we say
You’ll look like a model if you’ll only obey
To get the attention, just do what we say

Pay so much for clothes so small
Was that shirt made for me or my doll?
Is this all I get?
I looked so hot but caught a cold
I was doing just what I was told
To fit in

We’re saying let’s ask why
Don’t wear what they say
Don’t want to be a model
They can’t eat anyway
That kind of attention will fade with the day
So I’ll stand up and say

Clothes that fit are fine
Won’t show whats mine
Don’t change my mind
I’ll be fine


“Don’t you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world, becomes an enemy of God.”
James 4:4

“Evil companions corrupt good morals.”
1 Corinthians 15:33

Here is  a quote from Mabel Hale’s book ‘Beautiful Girlhood’:

“A person is made better or worse by his friends. If they are well chosen and faithful they build up and make strong the best that is in one; but if they are unwisely chosen they drag down and destroy all that is pure within. For a man will be like his friends. Show me the friends of a girl, those whom she most appreciates, and I will tell you what kind of girl she is though I never see her. Good girls have friends who are pure, noble, sincere, and upright. A girl cannot rise higher than the level of her friends. Either they will lift her up or she will descend to their level.”

I think this is so true because I’ve seen too often the results of “good, christian” young people who have become friends with those of the world.
Their attitude, dress and behavior slowly change to conform to those of their friends and those “good, christian” young people fall away from the faith. A girl will indeed become like her friends.
Thus, we must choose our friends very wisely and carefully.
One thing that has helped me is to make sure that my friends are the kind of people that I want to be like.
Also, if I am unsure about a certain person I ask my mother about them because I know that she is much wiser than I and has already gone through this ‘growing up’ stage that I’m in right now.
In this way I have avoided several friendships that I now know would not have been good.

May God bless you as you grow in Him and may He give you truly uplifting friends!